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Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

Steven Crowder And 'No-fault Divorce'

Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

It seems there’s a new exposé on public figures acting privately horribly every few days. For the past week, a viral video of American-Canadian political commentator Steven Crowder berating his heavily pregnant wife on security footage back in 2021 has been everywhere.

Tweets, posts, and hot takes clog my feeds. Was it actually verbal abuse? Or just a tired husband in a cranky moment? Aren’t famous people entitled to having a bad day without being crucified online? Public opinions range from “that’s just a normal married fight” to “this is indicative of domestic violence.”

In the footage, Crowder accuses his wife of acting disrespectfully to him and all men in general, even while she softly repeats her offer to run his errands and get whatever he wants. So is the issue really her lack of respect, or his entitlement to coercive control?
Author Sheila Gregoire did a magnificent job of outlining how popular Christian authors have dangerously defined masculine entitlement to demand unconditional respect from women, in
books such as Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs.

Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

“When she expresses an opinion, objection or even disappointment, she can violate the structure of the marriage. He, on the other hand, has the ability and right to label anything he doesn’t like as disrespectful,” Sheila explains in her article. She goes on to outline the advice Eggerichs’ book offers for situations like these, “‘Look at what you are doing wrong and give unconditional respect no matter what.’

In other words: Let him be in charge; defer to his leadership; follow his insight; give him sex on demand. The answer to his rageful emotional abuse is to be quieter, be more compliant, make yourself smaller.”

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If his own actions are any indication, Crowder’s worldview aligns closely with Eggerichs’.
Despite positioning himself as a champion for Christian marriage, Crowder clearly felt perfectly entitled to treat his wife as he did, and there is absolutely nothing she could have done to hold him accountable.

Except to leave.

But “just leaving” is far harder than it might sound. Since his divorce, Crowder is loudly vocal
about repealing no-fault divorce laws. On the surface, it sounds good to some, as a solution to keep Christian families together. But is something more sinister under the surface?

Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

In the United States, when divorce is granted without requiring one party to prove that the other party is at fault for the failure of the marriage, it is called no-fault divorce.

Cornell University’s Legal Information Institute (LII) explains, “traditional fault grounds for divorce are adulterycrueltyconfinement in prison, physical inability to have sexual intercourse, and incurable insanity. Today, all states allow no-fault divorce but about two-thirds of the states also still allow couples to obtain a divorce based on fault grounds.” (So I guess it’s fine to bail
on your marriage if your spouse is in an accident and can’t have sex anymore?) To Christians who are enthusiastically supportive of marriage, the concept of no-fault divorce may sound like a blank check for a society-wide attack on morality.

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Christians who uphold the traditional values of lifelong commitment, understandably recoil from the idea of allowing a partner to change their mind whenever they want. But is that really what no-fault divorce allows? I’d like to suggest that we look deeper to assess our own underlying biases.

In 1969, states began passing no-fault divorce laws one at a time. Researchers were fascinated by the results. Gretchen Baskerville, author of Life-Saving Divorceexplains “In states that passed unilateral no-fault divorce:

Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

  • The suicide rate for wives dropped by 8-16%.
  • The domestic violence rate by and against both men and women dropped by 30%
  • The homicide rate of women murdered by an intimate dropped by 10%.”

Dr. Jacquelyn Campbell, a researcher, inventor of the Danger Assessment, and professor at
Johns Hopkins School of Nursing, states in her Danger Assessment certification training, “The safest states for women who face domestic violence are the states with the lowest rates of women killing men.” Why? Because — for partners living with intimate terrorism — societal infrastructures such as domestic violence shelters and no-fault divorce provide an alternative path to safety other than death.

ALSO, READ Devon Franklin And Wife Meagan Good Are Officially Divorced After 9 Years Together

For Christians raised in, and raising their children in, loving safe homes — the concept of being forced to choose between hell at home or death may seem unfathomable. But those who have experienced abuse can imagine it easily.

To the casual onlooker, the idea of requiring one partner to prove that the other is, in fact, at fault, may seem quite reasonable. But those who have been forced to navigate the American family court system, know just how difficult, if not impossible, it can be to prove … well … anything at all.

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Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

Crowder, Focus on the Family, and others in this rising conservative Christian movement to repeal no-fault divorce laws altogether would have everyone believe that proving fault is the solution to keeping families together.

But what if the result is far worse? What if this repeal were to result in higher rates of abuse,
domestic violence, and even murder … because those who unwittingly married a coercively
controlling partner, are locked in for life unless they can incontrovertibly prove fault?

In a November 11, 2021 interview, Focus on the Family, “calls for doing away with laws
that allow abuse and betrayal victims to use current no-fault divorce provisions. In the interview the president of Focus on the Family, Jim Daly, said he was in favor of making divorce legally more difficult to obtain, and he didn’t offer any exception for abused wives, or wives of serial adulterers or pedophiles,” notes Baskerville. What options would they have left?

Interestingly, Crowder’s dislike toward the idea of marital partners being allowed to leave,
seems to coincide with his own divorce and the looming requirement for financial support.
According to Rolling Stone, Crowder first began complaining “about no-fault divorce in a segment last April, when his divorce proceedings were already underway … ‘

Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

I’m talking divorce laws, alimony laws, talking about child support laws.’” His stance is not particularly shocking, since coercive partners tend to feel entitled to avoid financial support of their children once the abused partner is no longer under their control.

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The irony though, is that Crowder lives in Texas. And according to Cornell, in the context of a ground for fault-based divorce, Texes explains “the meaning of cruelty as ‘the willful, persistent infliction of unnecessary suffering, whether in realization or apprehension, whether of mind or body, to such an extent as to render cohabitation dangerous and unendurable.’”

ALSO, READ See Popular Pastors That Got Married More Than Once And Why

In other words, if Texas were to repeal no-fault laws, the viral footage of Crowder’s behavior would have lent weight toward him being “at fault” for making marital life unendurable. But
what if a partner has no footage? Victims of abuse without such evidence would find behavior like Crowder’s next to impossible to prove.

Let me be very clear — while I work in the abuse recovery field, I am for marriage. I believe in biblical family, lifelong commitment, and loving companionship. I also recognize that black- and-white thinking can create an affinity for solutions that naively overlook life-threatening risks and nuances.

If we want to build marriages and families that are reflective of Christ’s healing safety, we must carefully consider all angles. (To explore those angles more, this bible study offers plenty to think about.)

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Steven Crowder And ‘No-fault Divorce’

We must look at the whole picture of what Scripture says about dealing with dangerous people, not just parts. Toward that end, as you assess your stance on social issues, include questions like: In what ways can we uphold healthy families and loving marriages, while having zero tolerance for abuse? Is the civil institution of marriage more valuable than the life and well-being of those being abused within its’ confines?

If you are reading this and you’re wondering if your own relationship is simply difficult or actually abusive, this free crash course will help you find safe answers.

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Dr Abel Damina Was Wrong For Saying This About Dunsin Oyekan’s Song

Dr Abel Damina Was Wrong For Saying This About Dunsin Oyekan's Song

Dr Abel Damina Was Wrong For Saying This About Dunsin Oyekan’s Song

Trending on the internet is a video of Dr. Abel Damina who is known for his controversial take on issues concerning the body of Christ and is seen by many as a heretic or controversial preacher saying the song Channels Of My Spirit by Dunsin Oyekan is unscriptural. This has caused a mixed reaction from ministers, musicians and the general audience who are for or against Abel Damina’s take.

ALSO, READ Hallelujah Is Not A Heavenly Language – Abel Damina (Video)

However, looking at the revelation behind the song, we would agree that Dr Abel did not understand the context. In the video below he referred to the channel as a frequency, not as a pathway for a body of water. The Bible says in JOHN 7:37b -39 feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38Whoever believes in Me, as the Scripture has said: ‘Streams of living water will flow from within him.’” 39He was speaking about the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were later to receive. For the Spirit had not yet been given, because Jesus had not yet been glorified

ALSO, READ Burn All The Books I Wrote On Prosperity’ Misleading – Abel Damina

OUR TAKE 

A channel in the spirit could mean a pathway by which we reflect the embodiment of the Holy Spirit in us, in our everyday life, jobs, academics, careers and ministry that will in turn make others give glory to God. Anything that affords you the privilege to reflect the God in You is a channel of the Spirit. The Bible says by their fruits we shall know them.

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Watch the video to have a full grasp of the concept and revelation behind this song which is proof that Dr. Abel was incorrect for berating the sanctity and revelation behind the song.  Above all, let love lead!! Let us refrain from the bathers on social media and pray for one another.

 

 

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Apostle Arome Osayi & Apostle Mike Orokpo Reconcile After Years Of Feud

Apostle Arome Osayi & Apostle Mike Orokpo Reconcile After Years Of Feud

Apostle Arome Osayi & Apostle Mike Orokpo Reconcile After Years Of Feud

Good news to the body of Christ in Nigeria as the much anticipated reconciliation between Apostle Arome Osayi and Apostle Mike Orokpo took place on the 3rd of June, 2024. This was made possible by the intervention of great servants of God such as Dr Akpami (the spiritual father of Apostle Arome Osayi), Dr. Paul Enenche who was revealed to have played a major role in this regard. Other men of God involved include; Pastor David Ogbueli and Evangelist Anthony Ogbuche.

We are happy to see this happen after a long time, but this is much expected as the highest expression of Priesthood is Love!!. The enemy is fighting against the body causing discord and bringing many into contention and completion . But, if we stand together as a whole body united and in love we will defeat the enemy.

Apostle Arome Osayi & Apostle Mike Orokpo Reconcile

He has agenda to make the house divide against itself, for the scripture to be fulfilled. In Matthew 15:25 ‘Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. Therefor, anything that brings about unity and peace amongst shepherd must be encouraged.

Thus, we  are on body and we serve the Living God! See the Official post in the Image below;

THE ZARIA RECONCILIATION AND PEACE ACCORD.
We bless the name of the Lord of peace Himself who has brought peace between his servants Apostle Arome Osayi and Apostle Orokpo Michael.
The meeting which held on Monday June 3, 2024 in Zaria was specially summoned by Apostle Arome’s father in the Lord, Dr. John Akpami, the heavenly arbitrator who saw off all matters in a most Holy Ghost charged atmosphere of love after a blunt session of truth revelations and discernment.
Special appreciation to Dr. Paul Enenche who did everything within his powers to ensure that the meeting holds to bring the needed peace to the both parties cum the body of Christ.

ALSO, READ Download Mp3 | All Apostle Michael Orokpo 2023/2024 Messages

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Apostle Arome Osayi & Apostle Mike Orokpo Reconcile

Heart felt gratitude also to Dr David Ogbueli, Evangelist Sunday Ogwuche and all the fathers of faith who insisted on the reconciliatory initiative.
What our hearts longed for, our eyes have seen today.
We are eye witnesses of these things.
Jesus is Lord forevermore.
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Pastor Ezekiel Atang Buried In Uyo See Photos & Guests Who Attended

Pastor Ezekiel Atang Buried In Uyo See Photos & Guests Who Attended

Pastor Ezekiel Atang Buried In Uyo See Photos & Guests Who Attended

Pastor Ezekiel Atang Buried In Uyo See Photos & Guests Who Attended

Late Pastor Ezekiel Atang Burial and Service Of Songs 

The body of late Pastor Ezekiel Atang, the Presiding Pastor of God’s House of Refuge, Uyo laid to rest in his hometown.

The Pastor died on Sunday, February 20, 2022, while in active pastoral duties at Onitsha, Anambra where he was invited to a 3-day crusade. READ HERE

The late cleric kicked off his final home journey on Wednesday, March 31 with a Service of Songs at the church auditorium in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State.

ALSO, READ Late TB Joshua To Be Buried In Lagos Today 9 July 2021

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There was a lying-in-state on Thursday, March 31 at the church premises by 8 am while a funeral service was held at the Ibom Hall Ground, which was attended by the state governor, Udom Emmanuel and other clerics.

Pastor Ezekiel Atang Buried In Uyo See Photos & Guests Who Attended

However, Some of the guests include the governor of Akwa Ibom state, Rev Dr Uma Ukpai, Dr Pasul Enenche and Many others.

MAY HIS GENTLE SOUL FIND ETERNAL REST IN THE LORD

See pictures below.

             

ALSO, READ Akwa Ibom State Government To Demolish Dunamis and 2 Other Mega Churches In Uyo

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