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When To Say It’s Over In Relationship And Marriage

When To say it's over in relationship and marriages

When To Say It’s Over In Relationship And Marriage

When To Say It’s Over In Relationship And Marriage

DEAL BREAKERS IN RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE

What is a Deal Breaker ??

DEAL BREAKER: The limit or extent to which a partner or participant in a joint venture can no longer continue the contract, agreement, deal or project as a result of an occurrence or event.

In relationships, deal-breakers vary to individuals. Like the saying goes one man’s food is another man’s poison.

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WHAT IS YOUR DEAL BREAKER??

We will discuss a few deal breakers from real experiences but we would love you to add yours at the comment section below if absent. Sometimes, these attributes surface at the beginning of a relationship and many times when it’s already getting more serious. In the beginning, it all seems rosy but when the going gets tough, the tough get going

Our focus is on relationships between lovers and partners or friends, so we limit it to the emotional and mental demographic.

  1. Infidelity

To some folks, especially the female gender, a cheat for a man breaks the deal. If a man is caught cheating red-handed or even on Assumption the deal is off.  The male gender also doesn’t tolerate this flaw but it appears to be more of a masculine flaw these days although women are good at this too.

Do all men cheat ???? Find out on Our next article.

Some ladies can never forgive a cheat while some can let it slide, reasons could be:

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  •  It’s his /her first time
  •  I don’t wanna lose him/her
  •  The circumstances he/she found himself/herself led to it
  •  I think he loves me but it’s the nature of men to cheat
  • I make mistakes too so I can forgive him/her
  •  I don’t really love him we’re in this for mutual benefit
  • For married folks, if divorce is not an option we must work it out ….

The list goes on and on and on.  Some folks can not deal with a cheat and let it slide …. Is this you ???

When To Say It’s Over In Relationship And Marriage

  1. An Abusive Partner 

Another deal-breaker here is abuse both physically and mentally. An abusive partner is a no-no for a lot of folks. Although this is gender centred on the men as abusers, some men also get abused by their female partners.

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A Lady said, “the moment he raises his hands to hit me while dating the deal is off, I walk away“.  Another said, “I need a man that can beat me and correct me because sometimes I could misbehave and need to be dealt with”.

Funny right ?? What do you think ?? So much for the Unpredictable heart of man

  1. Lies and Insincerity

This calls the deal off most time for partners who hate lies. It’s quite similar to cheating but a little different because of denial and acceptance of wrong goes a long way in Relationship. When a.man agrees he cheated and begs for mercy, the partner might likely forgive him if she sees sincerity and repentance…and vice versa. But, a perpetual liar in all is a deal-breaker for many

  1. Disrespect and Love Lost

Disrespect to the male gender breaks the deal most times and practically all the time a man’s problem with his woman is lack of respect.  So much for the ego of man, not willing to be bruised. All men Love their dominance and respect, fully implement and accepted. Same for some women though but not always, rare cases though not viral.

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Love lost, he doesn’t love me anymore I can’t force myself on him. He keeps pushing me away, this was not how we used to be I’m done. Yeah, ladies sometimes quit when they don’t feel loved anymore or have doubts that their partner is no longer interested

  1. A Criminal Trait

I can’t cope with a criminal, a thief, scam, burglar, fraud, addict, convict and so on… Once some folks find out the dark side about their partners it’s a done deal. While others love to ride with the devil

  1. Premarital Sex…

For Unmarried couples, this is a MAJOR ISSUE. How do we date and stay together having feelings for each other and not have sex ???  But some folks keep their faith and maintain this order and which calls the deal off in some cases when a partner tries to go against it.

This is a deal-breaker for true believers in the Christian Faith but not many have the guts for it.

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Most time pressures are from the male to go down but a woman who’s pride or dignity is not tampered with find it difficult to succumb easily…

When To Say It’s Over In Relationship And Marriage

Although many don’t see premarital sex as the evil it sure is.

When you’re not tied to a man in nuptial bliss there is enough tendency you won’t end up at the altar.

Thus,  if you will have to date 6 guys before the right one comes and they have access to your space how much of sex will you have given before you meet your husband. Although some don’t dignify their body sex is just an exercise but it sure is MORE than that.

But Think about this, When and If You finally get married and/ or you find yourself in a position that demands respect and dignifies you, can you demand respect from a man that has slept with you countless times?

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Those who argue with the word of God are those who fail in life. When you allow God’s will to be done in your life the same way it is in the heavens then the word will be settled in your life. When the word of God is settled in your life then your life will change like day and night.

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What Is Love? How Do We Know It’s Love?

WHAT IS LOVE? HOW DO WE KNOW IT'S LOVE?

What Is Love? How Do We Know It’s Love?

What Is Love? How Do We Know It’s Love?

Love is defined as a strong affection, a feeling of intense care towards another. It’s also defined as a profound and caring attraction towards someone.

Love has many definitions by human analogies and understanding but Love is far deeper than that. More than a mere feeling or romantic attachment, love is an action word, LOVE IS SACRIFICE. It is best described in the Holy Bible 1 Cor 13; so we must then look at the passage to get a good picture of what we want to talk about.

Before you fall in love you must first consider these factors, before delving into the complexity of the emotional puzzle called Love. These factors will help you access your maturity to play in the game of love.

This is because a delicate matter of the heart is best avoided than regretted.

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Humans have reduced love to just a show of affection, and far worse, sexual attraction and satisfaction. This is why we have so many broken homes, broken hearts, broken relationships, broken trust in our society today. Love is not just a feeling that comes and goes whenever it pleases. This is because it has the tendency to last forever but feelings don’t.

Our feelings are very unstable, volatile and unpredictable and we can never build a solid structure on an unstable platform. At this moment we feel like seeing someone so badly that we travel miles to meet them, only to spend a day or two with them and lose that feeling. We can never be in love if all we have is feeling, though important, it’s just icing on the cake.

Now let’s look at the Characteristics of Love as described in the Bible.

LOVE IS,

Patient; this is content to wait diligently, if necessary and not losing temper while waiting.

Are you willing to be patient while the other person gets things right? Can you persevere? endure the extras and complexity of being with someone for the rest of your life? These questions need your sincere answers because genuine love comes at a cost.

Patience will place a demand on your satisfaction, freedom, and pleasure. So if you have a problem with patience, reconsider falling in love.

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This is making a constant effort to manage the flaws and undoing in the other person even when they don’t know how to manage yours. Patience is a virtue get ready to exercise a lot of it if you wish to fall in love.

Kind;  This is having a benevolent, courteous, friendly, generous, gentle, liberal, sympathetic or warm-hearted nature.

The tendency to be affectionate at all times is a demonstration of love. Irrespective of the other’s attitude or character, we must show kindness in all. Not a matter of if they worth it or not show kindness. Even when you don’t feel like you must be committed to showing kindness. Can you do that?

Humble; Near to the ground not high or loft, near to the ground, not pretentious, not proud.

Humility puts a burden on you not to think highly of yourself compared to the other. It means taking a fall for what you didn’t bargain and still remain loyal and faithful.

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This is a very difficult characteristic of love because it takes maturity to possess. Never speaking rudely, nor display of arrogance, not boastful, always willing to learn, teach, and be corrected without offence. A humble spirit always appears to be cheated in the human sense of reasoning, and logic but they are most revered.

Selfless;

this should be the mother of all characteristics of love because it talks about sacrifice. Love is not self-seeking, love is selfless, you consider others first before yourself. So are you willing to sacrifice your comfort, substance, values, worth, to put the one you love instead?

These are issues that lead to broken homes, relationships and marriages when not properly addressed before the journey. Selflessness talks about exhibiting every other characteristic of love without considering reciprocation.

Forgiving; this is not just the tendency to let go of wrong done to you, but not to be easily angered, and keeping no record of hurt. It is proof that we love someone genuinely when we easily let go of any pain in the past and still accept them. Obviously, not societally correct because people say forgive but don’t forget what led to it.

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True, but genuine love makes you vulnerable to be hurt by the same person over and over again. Still, you keep forgiving and trust them not to hurt you again for the 10th time.

Trust; even when it is clear that they don’t worth it, you keep trusting, believing they will get it right. A society laced with traits of unfaithfulness, infidelity, greed and so on, makes trust an impossible commodity. But, when it comes to love you must be willing to trust, at all times.

WHAT IS LOVE? HOW DO WE KNOW IT’S LOVE?

Without trust, you can’t love. Without love, you can never trust. If you find it difficult to trust someone, then don’t try loving them. The first attribute of a trustworthy person is Truth. A trustworthy person never supports evil but rejoices in the truth. Can you trust me?

Protection; this is not just physically but also emotionally. Protecting the interests of the one you love in season and out the season. That means even when you have a hitch you still have their back.

It means standing up for them in their worst state and still saying I got you. It means guiding them away from harm, dangerous decisions, toxic people, and relationships even when you will be at risk.

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Love Always Hopes Always preserves

Love never fails

In conclusion, we don’t fall in love all of a sudden, that is not love, its infatuation. Love is not overnight or impromptu, Love is a walk. Any love that happens suddenly to strangers is only a rush of emotional affection or feeling. It is not loving, and it will fail if there is no effort to sustain it.

Love is deliberate, sacrificial, demanding and has the tendency to make or break. Yes there are cases of people who just met themselves and all of a sudden their world seems so perfect and we say its love at first sight but it is not.

It is only a matter of time for them to realize and go their separate ways or make it work. People that have been together for a long time will tell you it is not the same way they feel as of the first time they started their journey.

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WHAT IS LOVE? HOW DO WE KNOW IT’S LOVE?

Before you fall in Love, take your time to know if you have these attributes, less, or nil. Then, start working on the nil or less you have discovered. Love first start by making yourself lovable and loving yourself before it is accorded to another.
Don’t be in a hurry to fall in love and don’t be in a hurry to believe it when it is only said. TAKE YOUR TIME

Love is a visible word, it speaks, it moves, it is obvious. Take your time, don’t fall for it……..

NOTE; These tips will only help you understand what it takes to Love someone but remember, it’s a Relationship, its two-way. When you’re not being loved  after al you have tried, don’t KILL YOURSELF, GO WHERE THE LOVE IS 
GOD IS LOVE
STAY TUNED FOR THE CONTINUING SERIES
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