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Defining The Real Man – What It Takes To Be A Man

Defining The Real Man - What It Takes To Be A Man

Defining The Real Man – What It Takes To Be A Man

Defining The Real Man – What It Takes To Be A Man



Gen 2; 7-10, 15-25, 3;1-2, Titus 1;7-8, 1 Pet 3;1-3, 4-7, Eph 5 ;;22-33, 6 1-4

The mentality is a mindset, a way of thinking. As we all know the most competitive and complex battles take place in the mind before it contacts reality.


The mind is the powerhouse of a man, success and failures are both products of a devoted, determined mindset or a discouraged and defeated mindset respectively.

Decisions and indecisions are processed in the mind, the mind is the boardroom. Your mentality is the key to your finality.
However, in this context, we are looking at mentality as regards the Mind of God in the affairs of men.

God made mankind in his image and after His likeness to be fruitful, multiply, to have dominion and subdue the earth. Gen 1;27. But the burden of leadership rests on the shoulders of the MAN because, in the Divine organogram of God, MAN is the Head.

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Contrary to the popular belief and concept of feminism and male chauvinism, gender equality, and so on, the truth remains by virtue of kingdom principles Man is the Head. With no intention to demean the woman, in the Divine hierarchy Man is the Head and the responsibility to lead lies on his shoulders.

The woman is to help meet to assist, support and not to lead. God first reason to punish Adam was that he shifted his responsibility to the woman.

Gen 3;17. And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and has eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt, thou eat of it all the days of thy life;

God created Adam and Eve but ever wondered why he spoke to man first and virtually always? it is because the man with the instruction bears the burden to carry it out.

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Where there is no Hierarchy, there will be Anarchy. Anything that is possible is because someone is responsible to make it work. The leadership right of a man is not a privilege, it’s a divine heritage.

When there is no head there is no life, no direction no growth. Society has been taught to teach the gospel of convenience and not as commanded. God will never endorse what he has not enthroned.

Now, let’s look at the characteristics of man and how he missed his place and how to get things right.


The man as a tripartite being, Body, Soul, and Spirit, and with regards to his role in the family which is the smallest but greatest unit of Leadership He has 3 Parts to play as well

The man is the spiritual head of the home and this is a very critical aspect that must never be assigned to the woman. But in our society today, the reverse is the case.

The man has the burden to be the angel of the house, to stand in the gap in the realm of the spirit. A spiritually sound man is alive to receive instructions from God about the running of the home.

A man should intercede for the house more than any other

Luke 1;13.

“But the angel said unto him, Fear not, Zacharias: for thy prayer is heard; and thy wife Elisabeth shall bear thee a son, and thou shalt call his name John

Constantly building and feeding the spirit man to head the home. The priestly nature of a man has the authority to cancel satanic attacks and to endorse spiritual order.

Zechariah was dumb for his unbelief and for the purpose of fulfilling the word of God and as a testimony of approval. He had the power to alter the divine order as the man in authority just by doubting alone, how much more speaking.

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Man is the spiritual head of the home. Instructions are given to men by God, He doesn’t does anything on earth without speaking to men. He created that order and He is bound by it. However, when there is no man at al he speaks to the woman.


As much as being a priest is important, the role of fatherhood can never be neglected. The father is the Ladder, leader, Founder, commander, Role model, director, risk-taker, risk bearer.

The father controls the affairs of the family such as the finances, feeding, future, etc. He is up to date with his constituency. Nothing catches him by surprise. He drives, decides, disciplines, directs.

The father has the responsibility to provide for the family, the woman is a help to meet that purpose and not to take over.

He builds a system that even covers relationships and association with others outside the home. Every family has a secret, learn to keep yours.

Fatherhood is not a title but a task. He must be an example of proofs that will earn him respect even before his children. He must see the family follows the instruction to the letter.

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As a command, a man must love his wife as Christ loved the church. A husband must be emotionally alert also to understand the messages of the heart. A man must rule with his head but love with his heart.

The husband brings satisfaction and pleasures, his presence must bring joy and happiness. The husband is the friend the wife, confidant and moral support. Husband is the icing on the cake in the Roles of a man.

He is only permitted to be with one wife and that is the biblical standard. Whether the world approves it or not, it is one man to one woman. Now, let’s see how to make these roles work effectively in the family.


God gave man the responsibility to maintain and keep the garden. Work is a sceptre of dominion and control. Don’t look for money outside work. Dominion is not oppression but what you have to make things work. Any attack on your work is an attack on your worth.

Work is a must, be busy doing something than to be happy doing nothing. There is dignity in labour, so to be a man you must have work. A man is respected by what he does not what he says.

You cannot command attention by folding of hands, no matter how little, progress is not measured by the numerous things you do but by the effectiveness in the little things you do.

Money is a defence, poverty is an attack. Lack of money reduces a man to mediocrity because there is no control when there is no finance. Not to have all the money but enough start and enough to continue makes up for sufficiency.

The woman was brought into a garden well kept, that signifies comfort, before the fall of man, and that’s God original intention.

A man must work harder to be the backbone of the home, the wife is not obligated to do that she is only a help to meet the need, not her right.

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If a man is not the provider of the house the mantle of leadership will someday be contested. Work Harder to be the head.


Build your mind, be informed, in order to make informed decisions. Know almost everything, at any time because you are to provide solution always. Never be blank or unaware of things in the home or in society.

Be a well of information, be resourceful be equipped, be up to date on everything that matters. That’s what makes you a man because leadership is not who is at fault but who is to blame. The burden on the shoulders of a leader is to have answers always and take responsibility for falls.

Be a Man of depth and knowledge let your words and actions be seasoned with wisdom and proofs. Build your mind in order to make informed decisions over sensitive issues. Go for knowledge


This was where it all went sour, the fall of man and these are the factors still availing today if not taken care of.


Gen 3;1;-5

“For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.

Pride was the first reason for the first fall, and still responsible for many today proverb 16;18

The greatest undoing of man is lust to be like God Almighty. In as much as we are to be the head and not the tail, first and not the last, there is a God that makes that possible.

The quest to be God made Lucifer lose his place in heaven. He has not stopped using that to lure man into destruction. Pride will only take you up to crash you down later.

Pride comes with greed, lust, desperation, etc

It’s not enough to pray against pride, deliberate actions must be taken. You cannot lead successfully if you are selfish. Leadership selfless, pride is selfish.

2 SERPENT The devil
The devil is always against anything that promotes comfort. He was the serpent in Genesis. He creeps into the garden and subtly introduces false principles and doctrines and stir rebellion to set mankind up before his Creator.

In the garden, he looked for the weak link to penetrate and made it porous. Watch out for the devil he is always out to kill steal and destroy. When you realize how much responsibility you shoulder as a man you will guard your home jealously. Responsibility peaks from the point of awareness. When you realize your position, your disposition will change.

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This is a Spiritual influence in the affairs of mankind that should never be taken for granted. It is not a respecter of person. God was the first to lay a curse on mankind after he fell by disobedience.

Curse brings about set back, stagnation, rejection, insecurities, confusions, etc.

These three things led to the fall of man but the good news is that Christ has redeemed us from the curse and has restored us to our rightful place.

Gal 3 12-14
12 The law is not based on faith; on the contrary, it says, “The person who does these things will live by them.”[a] 13 Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole.”[b] 14 He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit.

In conclusion, we have established the right mentality about the MAN as the head which is God’s original plan. No disregard of whatsoever to the woman but the truth remains any digress to Divine order leads to a repercussion that could never be reversed.

Take a stand today, chose to be a Real Man by being Responsible. A man that shifts his responsibility is worse than an infidel.


Gen 2; 7-10, 15-25, 3;1-2, Titus 1;7-8, 1 Pet 3;1-3, 4-7, Eph 5 ;;22-33, 6 1-4 Esther; 1;9-20


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